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How to Deal with Bullying

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Bullying is a problem that affects millions of students, and has students, parents, teachers and staff members concerned.

 

Bullying is when a person is picked on over and over again by an individual or group with more power, either in terms of physical strength or social standing. Two main reasons people may be bullied are because of appearance or social status.

 

Some bullies attack their targets physically, which can mean anything from shoving or tripping to punching or hitting. Others use psychological control or verbal insults. Verbal bullying can also involve sending cruel instant or email messages, or even posting insults about a person on a website.

 

One of the most painful aspects of bullying is that it can be relentless. Most people can take one episode of teasing or name calling, however when it goes on and on, bullying can put a person in a state of constant fear.

 

Bullies are at risk for problems too, bullying is violence, and it often leads to more violent behavior as the bully grows up. Some teen bullies end up also being rejected by their peers and lose friendships as they grow up.

 

This ultimately begs the question, what can you do about bullying? It is vital to report bullying if it threatens to lead to physical danger or harm to any student. Adults in positions of authority such as teachers, coaches, counselors, administrators and parents can often find ways to resolve bullying problems without the bully ever learning how they found out about it.

 

Other things to think about when dealing with bullying include: 

 

Ignore the bully and walk away - this can sometimes be harder than loosing your temper, bullies thrive on the reaction they get, so if you walk away you are telling bullies you don’t care.

 

Don’t get physical - You can stand up for yourself in other ways, such as gaining control of the situation or by being assertive in your actions. Aggressive responses tend to lead to more violence and more bullying for the victims.

 

Practice confidence - practice ways to respond to the bully verbally or through your behavior.

 

Take charge of your life - you can’t control other people’s actions but you can stay true to yourself. Think about ways to feel your best, and strongest!

 

Find your true friends - to help ease the feelings of hurt and isolation find one or two true fiends you know you can confide in.

 

 

*Article from KidsHealth.org